1 Corinthians 16:14
Let all that you do be done in love.
It’s the time of year when we find boxes of pink and red heart decorated candy and trinkets just about everywhere. You also find little stuffed animals and greeting cards expressing love. These tokens of love and friendship line the seasonal section of many retailers. Grocery stores set up portable tents to house fresh rose bouquets so you can drive though to pick up a gift for your sweetie. It’s still January, but reminders of Valentine’s Day are everywhere. It’s an 18 billion dollar business.[i] For just one day!
Couples will go out to a fancy dinner and express their love to each other. Children exchange little valentines in class parties. Millions of women will receive flowers and jewelry from their loved ones on one specific day. Why do we celebrate expressions of love and friendship on select days of the year? Why can’t we express love more often?
I think we can, but often times we don’t, because by nature, we are selfish creatures. Most often, we live for ourselves. Just take a look at the career you chose, your home, your bank account, and your pastimes. These are all expressions of ourselves; our own interests. We often live for ourselves at the expense of other people. We have to make a decision to show love. Holidays remind us to do that.
Deep down, we understand God created us to love others. So we turn to books and relationship experts explaining how to love your mate or family better, or how to express love in general. We should be turning to the good book for help expressing love. The Bible has a great deal to say about the subject. One of the most quoted passages on love is found in 1 Corinthians, Chapter 13:4-7. It’s succinct.
Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant 5 or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.
We tend to think of love as a feeling, but according to 1 Corinthians 13 love is a behavior. It’s an act. When I think of that, I have to remember how I acted to certain people, mostly my family. Have I acted like I truly loved each one of them, or did I hurry them through homework, dinner, chores, and afterschool activities? What about the times I’ve been short tempered, or worse, uninterested? What about the times I was not available for a friend who truly needed me?
I’ll still remember my loved ones as Valentine’s Day approaches, but I’m committed to acting like I love my family and friends, expressing love every single day, in every act. It’s not always going to be easy. I need to learn more patience, to be more interested, more aware, and tolerant. I am grateful for the guidance given me in the Scriptures.
A new commandment I give to you, that you love one another: just as I have loved you, you also are to love one another. By this all people will know that you are my disciples, if you have love for one another.”
Blessings on your day.
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