100 Reasons We Love Mom



Most of us rarely consider the influence and impact our families have on us, and in particular, our Mothers. We start to realize that when we have a child or a loved one becomes ill, or they are gone. Our Mom’s impact us more that we really know (or want to admit). We are who we are largely because of our Moms. (For brothers, moms are critically important, but in a different way, but that’s another story.) My sisters and I decided to come up with a list of all the reasons we love our Mother, things she taught us, and the different ways our Mom has impacted us.  We believe most women will identify with these examples and come up with more for their own Mom.

  1. She gave birth to me.
  2. She is my sister’s mom.
  3. She loves my Dad.
  4. She always took me to church (whether I wanted to go or not).
  5. And Youth Group.
  6. She made sure I had a nice smile (braces).
  7. She made sure the Weddings were “over the top.”
  8. She was there (holding my hands) at the birth of that first grandchild (and      more).
  9. She loves all her grandchildren and treats them all “fairly”.
  10. She loves her son-in-laws
  11. She taught me to cook.
  12. She taught me manners.
  13. She told me to always act and look like a lady, and wear lipstick.
  14. There’s always a couple of dollars in every note/card she sends.
  15. She loved me even when I was a “pain in the butt” and endured my “teenage drama” years.
  16. She’s got great decorating advice.
  17. She always knew the families before I was allowed to play with the kids.
  18. When you really care about something she will also care about it.
  19. She will always tell you that you look very pretty / nice, etc.
  20. She taught me to always write thank you notes.
  21. She thinks I am creative.
  22. She still spoils us at Christmas, anniversaries, birthdays, etc.
  23. She taught me to look for a bargain, or buy “on sale”.
  24. She taught us to always take a hot meal to a new neighbor and sick friend.
  25. She taught me how to entertain friends and do it well.
  26. There’s nothing like a home-cooked meal.
  27. It’s ok to have a glass of wine.
  28. She taught me to do laundry, correctly.
  29. She made me change the sheets every week and how to do “hospital”      corners.
  30. She taught me to set a pretty table for holiday meals.
  31. Having a family dinner together (almost) every night is wonderful.
  32. Say Grace.
  33. We always had handmade Easter dresses (they were usually matching).
  34. Our Easter baskets always had a Chocolate Rabbit and at least one toy.
  35. There was always a Hidden treasure in Christmas Stockings.
  36. Always save room for dessert.
  37. Fresh bread is always the best.
  38. A little prayer sure helps.
  39. Spoil your dog.
  40. She’ll send you a postcard when she goes on vacation.
  41. Wash your hands before you eat.
  42. Eat breakfast every day.
  43. Shopping is a sport.
  44. She told us to play nice with the other kids.
  45. Always told me to be nice person (period).
  46. She gave us piano & flute lessons
  47. Swimming and gymnastics lessons too.
  48. Shoes don’t have to match your purse.
  49. Wear clean underwear.
  50. You can do almost anything with a hot-glue gun.
  51. Brush and floss your teeth.
  52. Always take a jacket, and often an umbrella too.
  53. She never forgets a birthday/anniversary or other holiday.
  54. Took me to see grandparents quite often – the trip was across country.
  55. She told me to always keep a few dollars in my pocket for emergencies.
  56. She’s proud of us no matter what.
  57. Be sure to send Christmas cards.
  58. You can never have too many photos.
  59. She always made me try new foods, and made me eat my veggies.
  60. Have a hobby.
  61. Look for the good in everything and everyone.
  62. She passed down Grandma & Great Grandma keepsakes.
  63. She taught me to darn a sock and sew on a button.
  64. She taught me to share, especially ice cream cones and M & Ms.
  65. She always found ways to surprise us.
  66. A sack lunch is great.
  67. Always make the time to have lunch with friends.
  68. We always got a little gift when she returned from trips.
  69. Carry 2 pens, someone might need to borrow one.
  70. Carry lots of Kleenex, someone will need one.
  71. She cooked over an open campfire and can pitch a tent.
  72. She took me to a dermatologist.
  73. She picked great clothes and jewelry.
  74. Be sure to get your hair done, often.
  75. She still remembers my favorite dinner and dessert from childhood and still prepares it better than I do.
  76. Photos of my kids are on her fridge.
  77. Goes overboard when we come to town.
  78. She sends cards for all occasions
  79. Her fudge and pumpkin nut bread are “to die for.”
  80. She always makes my favorite pie.
  81. She always took a picture of us on the first day of school.
  82. She made me do things myself.
  83. Plan a get-away with your spouse at least once a year.
  84. Have a savings account and don’t break into it.
  85. Take care of your skin, even when you are young.
  86. Nurture your friendships; motherhood can be very lonely sometimes.
  87. Vote.
  88. She made sure we always got to see fireworks.
  89. She pumps her own gas
  90. Know what the organization really does before you donate to them.
  91. She sent really great care packages to me when I was stationed overseas.
  92. Don’t complain.
  93. She taught us how to make a decision, there are consequences to everything.
  94. You can have a good time without spending money.
  95. Use sunscreen and chap-stick.
  96. She doesn’t understand my jokes but she still laughs.
  97. She taught me to go above and beyond in my career.
  98. Visit the gravesite of loved ones when you are in town.
  99. She backed me up when I was blamed for something that I swore I didn’t do.
  100. She put up with all my childhood shenanigans and loves to tell everyone about them.

The list could go on and on, but we are stopping at 100.  Life is a constant learning experience. Some of us are fortunate enough to have our Moms with us for most of the ride. We still learn from our Mother and so do our children. We are who we are because of her. How would our lives have been different if our Mom was not a strong, compassionate and loving woman? We’re grateful that we will never know.

Blessings on your day.

In The Eye Of The Storm


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Psalm 91:2

I will say to the Lord, ‘My refuge and my fortress, my God, in whom I trust.’” 

My family moved to Jacksonville, Florida a little over a year ago. When we made the decision to move I never considered that we would deal with hurricanes. For the second time in as many months, a huge storm drew near to us. Herminie came through Jacksonville as a tropical storm, but Matthew passed dangerously close to our coast line as a category 4 hurricane.  Schools and businesses closed in preparation for the storm. Meteorologists warned of the danger of the storm and explained it could reshape parts of our coastline. We stocked up on supplies and water and made provisions if we lost power. Millions of people living right on the coast were evacuated. As the hurricane drew near to us the wind and rain became frightening, and lasted for hours. I made several Facebook posts with storm updates and asking for prayers. I felt those prayers. Our Heavenly Father saw us through the storm. As I type this blog the storm has passed. We are waiting for morning to survey the damage.

We also face many metaphorical storms in life; job loss, illnesses, infertility, not getting that promotion, betrayal, and death to name a few. We try to control these storms, but we cannot. In some cases we just prolong the pain. The storms we experience leave different kinds of marks on our lives. Some of these storms will change us forever. But the one thing that will never change is God’s love for us. He will see us through these storms; He is faithful and in control. Psalm 33:4 tells us, “For the word of the Lord is upright, and all his work is done in faithfulness.”

I don’t know what storm you are facing, or the severity. All I can tell you is to put your faith in God, and let Him have control of the winds and rain. Something beautiful awaits you on the other side of the storm. I’ve always experienced an unexpected blessing when the storm passes.

The events of the past few days remind me of the song “In The Eye of the Storm” recently released by Ryan Stevenson. May it bring you peace.

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Psalm 107:29  He made the storm be still, and the waves of the sea were hushed.

Image: Artist Unknown – found on Facebook 10/7/2016

A Love Story


 

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Do not cast me off in the time of old age; forsake me not when my strength is spent. Psalm 71:9

We just returned from a trip to Texas to visit with my husband’s family. It was wonderful to see my in-laws and spend some quality time together. We were also able to catch up with old friends, and visit our former church. There was a lot to do, but the highlight of our trip was the opportunity to witness a beautiful love story. I knew that my husband’s parents loved each other, but, staying in their home, I was privileged to observe daily, the deep love and affection my father-in-law has for his wife.

Haydee and Gerardo’s love story started in Cuba in the mid 50’s. They were married in 1957 and in 1959 they escaped the Cuban revolution. They immigrated to America where they carved out a new life and raised five wonderful children. Fifty-nine years later they have thirteen grandchildren and four great-grandchildren (and counting). Life has been very good to the Garro’s, but every family has its share of sorrows.

Several years ago, my mother-in-law suffered a series of debilitating stokes that left her unable to walk, talk, or even feed herself. This was followed by Alzheimer’s and dementia. Over the years, her family witnessed a vibrant woman succumb to the ravages of old age. I’m saddened that my daughter will never know what a strong and determined woman her grandmother was.

My husband’s father has done everything he can to take care of his wife. Each day a home health nurse assists Haydee to get ready for the day. In the morning, my father-in-law putters about the house doing chores and such. While he works he talks lovingly to his life-long companion despite the fact that she probably doesn’t understand him. After lunch, he sits Haydee up on the couch, and then sits next to her, holding her hand, like high school sweethearts. He speaks softly to his wife; words that I know express his deep love for her.

Every day their routine is the same. It would be easier on the family to put Mrs. Garro in a nursing home. The care she requires is quite a burden. However, to remove her from her home would interrupt the love these two still share. It would also deny their family and friends the opportunity to witness how true love is expressed. Psalm 92:14 tells us this, “They still bear fruit in old age; they are ever full of sap and green.” Indeed, my in-laws are still producing fruit by setting such a beautiful example.

Blessings on your day.

 

 

Fat Tuesday Does Not Make Sense To Me


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Quite a party is going on right now, in New Orleans, Rio de Janeiro and other cities around the world. It’s called Mardi Gras which is French for Fat Tuesday. It is the last day of a season called Carnival. The Carnival season is filled with merrymaking, dancing, and eating to excess among other activities. Fat Tuesday is the culmination of these festivities, featuring celebrations, parades, masquerades, and also, sadly, drunkenness and shameless behavior.

The day after Fat Tuesday is Ash Wednesday, the beginning of the Season of Lent. Lent is a 40-day period of fasting and repentance, and a preparation for the celebration of Easter. Carnival is the indulgence of bad behavior before the fast, or a binge prior to asking for forgiveness. Participants in Fat Tuesday celebrations act as if you can do whatever you want during Carnival, as long as you attend Ash Wednesday services, repent and ask for forgiveness.

I fail to understand the purpose of sinning deliberately, then asking God for forgiveness. The practice is totally unscriptural. The Bible forbids drunkenness and shameless behavior (Romans 13:13-14 and Galatians 5:19-21), and encourages us to think about what is good and pure (Philippians 4:8). If we have a relationship with God, then we shouldn’t want to participate in activities that grieve Him.

God wants us to have fun (Luke 15:3:10 and Luke 15:23-24.) God even commanded celebrations (Exodus 12:14, Deuteronomy 16). Jesus attended a wedding in Cana (John 2:1-12). Celebrations even occur in heaven (Luke 15:7-10) and we await the greatest celebration of all, the Marriage Supper of the Lamb (Revelation 19:6-9).

God has showered me with many blessings. So I’ll skip the carousing and merrymaking and take my queues from Scripture. I’ll reserve my celebrations for remembering all that our great God has done for us.

Blessings on your day.

 

Reblogged from February 17, 2015

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Developing Patience


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 Psalm 37:7-9

Be still before the Lord and wait patiently for him; fret not yourself over the one who prospers in his way, over the man who carries out evil devices! Refrain from anger, and forsake wrath! Fret not yourself; it tends only to evil. For the evildoers shall be cut off, but those who wait for the Lord shall inherit the land.

“Patience may be the trait we are most lacking.” Pastor David Alexander, First United Methodist Church, Mansfield, Texas

The other day I was listening to a previously recorded sermon as part of my quiet time. The above quote convicted me to the point I knew it was time to do something about my lack of patience because I don’t always display this beautiful trait. In fact, I think I usually fail in the patience category. Frequently, I’ve been short with my husband and kids. I’ve been impatient in traffic and people standing before me in line. I’ve been impatient waiting at the doctor’s office. The list goes on, and on…

Although we live in an instant gratification culture it doesn’t mean we have to live like everyone else. I decided it was time to develop this very necessary skill. What is patience and how can I develop it? Dictionary.com tells us patience is “an ability or willingness to suppress restlessness or annoyance when confronted with delay and the ability to bear provocation, annoyance, misfortune, or pain without complaint, loss of temper, irritation or the like.” The word willingness is key. It means I have control. I also noticed where the word patience is in the Love Chapter. Notice 1 Corinthians 13:4-7:

Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.

Patience is an act of love.

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Now the question becomes, “How can I develop patience?” There are probably dozens of suggestions, but these are the ones I came up with:

  • Recognize that there are some things you simply cannot control.
  • Recognize the things that make you act on impulse, and either avoid them or think about the reasons for your reactions
  • Look at the other person’s point of view
  • Slow down and practice delaying gratification.
  • Think before you speak. It may be as simple as counting to 10 before your respond.
  • Ask yourself, why are you in such a hurry? Will hurrying change anything?
  • Identify triggers that make you feel impatient and plan to avoid them.
  • Remind yourself that things do take time.
  • Remember that for every minute you are angry, you lose a minute of joy and peace.
  • Create space or margin in your life knowing that you will need the extra time to deal with the inevitable.

How about you?  Do you have any suggestions for developing patience? I would love to hear from you.

 Blessings on your day.

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Scripture: www.openbible.info

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Acts of Kindness (and 100 Acts of Kindness Ideas)


 

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 Proverbs 21:21

Whoever pursues righteousness and kindness will find life, righteousness, and honor.

 Proverbs 11:17

A man who is kind benefits himself, but a cruel man hurts himself.

My life has been touched many, many times by simple, unexpected acts of kindness. Those instances include receiving unexpected notes from friends, flowers, and meals when I was a young mother. There was the couple who helped me with my bags when I was traveling alone, and countless times someone has held the door for me. There was the time someone stopped to help me change a flat tire and the time I was not charged for a service call. Such a simple gestures can really add to someone’s day. One simple act of kindness can spur another on to do the same thing.

The opposite is also true – it’s easy to aggravate someone by being thoughtless, rude, or just insisting on our own way. Maybe it’s because we are in a hurry, or are thinking too highly of ourselves, or perhaps we are reacting to a bad situation – but there is really no excuse for being rude. Sometimes we just don’t show emotion because we don’t know someone we are interacting with – like a cashier. Keep in mind that a simple act of kindness can derail a thoughtless act.

Yesterday, someone bought lunch for everyone in my office. What a pleasant surprise! I watched how faces lit up when given the news. Everyone was smiling and enjoyed pleasant conversation with the welcome diversion from our usual busy Friday afternoon. Later I noticed one of the lunch recipients holding the door for not one, but three coworkers. Someone else held the elevator door. The lunch act of kindness was passed on.

God expects us to act with kindness towards one another. Kindness is a Fruit of the Spirit (Galatians 5:22-23). It is also mentioned several other places in the Bible. Consider the Prophet Zechariah’s words: “Thus says the Lord of hosts, Render true judgments, show kindness and mercy to one another, do not oppress the widow, the fatherless, the sojourner, or the poor, and let none of you devise evil against another in your heart.” (Zechariah 7:9-10). We are commanded to act kindly toward each other.

If we listen to the news it would be easy to become cynical and assume no one is kind to each other anymore. However, we have all experienced acts of kindness at some point. Pass it on.

 Micah 6:8

He has told you, O man, what is good; and what does the Lord require of you but to do justice, and to love kindness, and to walk humbly with your God?

 The following list is just a few ideas to show kindness to someone. It’s so easy. I’m challenging myself to act more kindly to others, especially those I don’t know.

  1. It all starts with a smile. Look people in the eye and give them a big smile.
  2. Open the door for someone.
  3. Bring flowers to a friend or neighbor.
  4. Buy a co-worker their favorite soda or treat. Leave it on his or her desk with a smiley face sticky note.
  5. Drop off toys, a game, or stuffed animals at a homeless shelter.
  6. Introduce yourself to neighbors and bring baked goods or sweets.
  7. Pay the toll for the car behind you.
  8. Wash someone’s car for them.
  9. Send a card or handwritten note to someone you hardly know.
  10. Help an elderly person cross the street.
  11. Help someone carrying a lot of stuff.
  12. Pay someone a sincere compliment.
  13. Leave a nice note for your spouse/child/friend.
  14. Open the door for someone.
  15. Help a younger sibling with homework.
  16. Let a car merge in front of you and do it with a smile.
  17. Participate in a park or beach cleanup.
  18. Exercise patience.
  19. Volunteer for Habitat for Humanity.
  20. Help someone with their bags or luggage.
  21. Offer to take a picture for tourists.
  22. Pay for the coffee for the person behind you.
  23. Share your class notes with a classmate.
  24. Help a friend move.
  25. Strike up a conversation with a stranger.
  26. Make your sibling/child/roommate’s bed for them.
  27. Help a lost tourist find his or her way
  28. Mentor someone.
  29. Give a generous tip to your waiter.
  30. Bring a welcome gift to new neighbors.
  31. Befriend a lonely person.
  32. Reach out to someone you haven’t talked to in a while.
  33. Compliment a stranger.
  34. Let someone take your parking spot.
  35. Don’t honk at cars (or people).
  36. Bring baked goods to the office to share.
  37. Donate your blood at a blood drive.
  38. Sit with someone who is eating alone.
  39. Go visit strangers in a nursing home. Read to them.
  40. Let someone go in front of you at the cashier.
  41. Bake cookies for the firemen.
  42. Donate clothes and shoes to the needy.
  43. Clean up after someone in the lunchroom or cafeteria.
  44. Recommend your favorite restaurant to a tourist.
  45. Do your sibling’s or roommate’s household chore.
  46. Praise a child to the parents while the child is present.
  47. Hold the elevator door for others.
  48. Text a friend to say you’re thinking of them.
  49. Offer someone a piece of gum or a mint.
  50. Bring misplaced shopping carts back to the designated area.
  51. Organize a study session for your classmates.
  52. Offer to babysit your friends’ kids for free.
  53. Donate your locks of hair.
  54. Tell someone you’ve fought with that you’re sorry and that you forgive them.
  55. Sign up to be an organ donor.
  56. Leave extra time in a parking meter.
  57. Pay for your friend’s tab.
  58. Give a blanket or umbrella to a homeless person.
  59. Be kind to someone you dislike.
  60. Encourage someone who is working hard at the gym.
  61. Vacuum the floor for your roommate.
  62. Take a shorter shower to save the hot water.
  63. Make a donation to a charity you care about.
  64. Bring homemade food to a new mom or single mom.
  65. Teach a child how to ride a bike.
  66. Bring a homeless person some food and a drink.
  67. Send a care package to someone in the military.
  68. Email your boss or professor and tell them how much you love learning from them.
  69. Be sure to say “good morning” and “thank you” to all service workers (bus drivers, police officers, mail carriers, and firefighters).
  70. Help a friend look for a job.
  71. Let your friend vent and listen to her problems.
  72. Make a playlist for your friends.
  73. Let someone else take your seat on public transportation.
  74. Praise the work of others.
  75. Let someone cut in front of you in line.
  76. Donate $1 to the next tip jar you see.
  77. Tell a street performer how amazing he or she is.
  78. Share your umbrella with someone who didn’t bring one.
  79. Help someone carry groceries to the car.
  80. Offer to work late for a co-worker who needs to leave early
  81. Donate books to the local shelter or hospital.
  82. Volunteer at an animal shelter during adoption events.
  83. Sponsor a child in a developing country.
  84. Write a letter to your former schoolteachers and tell them how much they influenced you.
  85. Help someone change their tire.
  86. Sign up for a bone marrow donation.
  87. Volunteer at a disabled student’s learning center.
  88. Shovel someone’s walk or driveway.
  89. Rake your neighbor’s leaves.
  90. Bring in a neighbor’s trash bins.
  91. Offer your seat on a plane so a family or couple can sit together.
  92. Support your own and your friends’ kids at their recitals and games
  93. Participate in a fund-raiser or donation.
  94. Offer to pick up your friend’s children after school.
  95. Offer to pet-sit for your friend for free.
  96. Pay someone a compliment.
  97. Bring a treat to share with your coworkers.
  98. Send someone a small gift anonymously.
  99. Leave a nice comment on a blog.
  100. For no particular reason, hug someone you love like you mean it.

Colossians 3:12

Put on then, as God’s chosen ones, holy and beloved, compassionate hearts, kindness, humility, meekness, and patience

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Love Is In The Air


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1 Corinthians 16:14

Let all that you do be done in love.

It’s the time of year when we find boxes of pink and red heart decorated candy and trinkets just about everywhere. You also find little stuffed animals and greeting cards expressing love. These tokens of love and friendship line the seasonal section of many retailers. Grocery stores set up portable tents to house fresh rose bouquets so you can drive though to pick up a gift for your sweetie. It’s still January, but reminders of Valentine’s Day are everywhere. It’s an 18 billion dollar business.[i] For just one day!

Couples will go out to a fancy dinner and express their love to each other. Children exchange little valentines in class parties. Millions of women will receive flowers and jewelry from their loved ones on one specific day. Why do we celebrate expressions of love and friendship on select days of the year? Why can’t we express love more often?

I think we can, but often times we don’t, because by nature, we are selfish creatures. Most often, we live for ourselves. Just take a look at the career you chose, your home, your bank account, and your pastimes. These are all expressions of ourselves; our own interests. We often live for ourselves at the expense of other people. We have to make a decision to show love. Holidays remind us to do that.

Deep down, we understand God created us to love others. So we turn to books and relationship experts explaining how to love your mate or family better, or how to express love in general. We should be turning to the good book for help expressing love. The Bible has a great deal to say about the subject. One of the most quoted passages on love is found in 1 Corinthians, Chapter 13:4-7. It’s succinct.

Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.

We tend to think of love as a feeling, but according to 1 Corinthians 13 love is a behavior. It’s an act. When I think of that, I have to remember how I acted to certain people, mostly my family. Have I acted like I truly loved each one of them, or did I hurry them through homework, dinner, chores, and afterschool activities? What about the times I’ve been short tempered, or worse, uninterested? What about the times I was not available for a friend who truly needed me?

I’ll still remember my loved ones as Valentine’s Day approaches, but I’m committed to acting like I love my family and friends, expressing love every single day, in every act. It’s not always going to be easy. I need to learn more patience, to be more interested, more aware, and tolerant. I am grateful for the guidance given me in the Scriptures.

John 13:34-35

A new commandment I give to you, that you love one another: just as I have loved you, you also are to love one another. By this all people will know that you are my disciples, if you have love for one another.”

Blessings on your day.

Scripture:  www.biblegateway.com

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