A Love Story


 

in laws

Do not cast me off in the time of old age; forsake me not when my strength is spent. Psalm 71:9

We just returned from a trip to Texas to visit with my husband’s family. It was wonderful to see my in-laws and spend some quality time together. We were also able to catch up with old friends, and visit our former church. There was a lot to do, but the highlight of our trip was the opportunity to witness a beautiful love story. I knew that my husband’s parents loved each other, but, staying in their home, I was privileged to observe daily, the deep love and affection my father-in-law has for his wife.

Haydee and Gerardo’s love story started in Cuba in the mid 50’s. They were married in 1957 and in 1959 they escaped the Cuban revolution. They immigrated to America where they carved out a new life and raised five wonderful children. Fifty-nine years later they have thirteen grandchildren and four great-grandchildren (and counting). Life has been very good to the Garro’s, but every family has its share of sorrows.

Several years ago, my mother-in-law suffered a series of debilitating stokes that left her unable to walk, talk, or even feed herself. This was followed by Alzheimer’s and dementia. Over the years, her family witnessed a vibrant woman succumb to the ravages of old age. I’m saddened that my daughter will never know what a strong and determined woman her grandmother was.

My husband’s father has done everything he can to take care of his wife. Each day a home health nurse assists Haydee to get ready for the day. In the morning, my father-in-law putters about the house doing chores and such. While he works he talks lovingly to his life-long companion despite the fact that she probably doesn’t understand him. After lunch, he sits Haydee up on the couch, and then sits next to her, holding her hand, like high school sweethearts. He speaks softly to his wife; words that I know express his deep love for her.

Every day their routine is the same. It would be easier on the family to put Mrs. Garro in a nursing home. The care she requires is quite a burden. However, to remove her from her home would interrupt the love these two still share. It would also deny their family and friends the opportunity to witness how true love is expressed. Psalm 92:14 tells us this, “They still bear fruit in old age; they are ever full of sap and green.” Indeed, my in-laws are still producing fruit by setting such a beautiful example.

Blessings on your day.

 

 

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7 thoughts on “A Love Story

  1. Most may never know what it means to love someone in sickness and in health. I am so inspired by your message! My wife and I both served in the Air Force we started basic training at the same time in March 1977. We were both in different flights of men and women, three of each and I never saw her, we finished at the same time and went on the same bus to technical school at Keesler AFB in MS. I still did not see her, and yet within the first 10 days there we met and married June 24 1977. We courted the old fashion way. and simply held hands and had an occasional kiss. We went through good times and bad always together, lost two young sons along the way. Have two daughters, born 21 years apart , and seven grandchildren. We both are disabled Veterans, and we are still inseparable. June 24th we will be married 39 years. And each morning when she opens her eyes and smiles at me she still takes my breath away. Gods word when you marry says through sickness and health…I will never leave her side and her mine. I write poetry for the two I love the most, God and my wife…your post inspires me to share a poem that I was moved to write while daydreaming right before we got married, about 23 days before. When we were thinking about getting married. We stayed in different dormitories and I would send her poems written in hallmark cards. Here is a poem and angel led me to write. It makes me think of your In-laws…. Have a very beautiful evening. People ask why I am always happy and write about love…i have the love of the two I love most. My poems appear almost daily at wherewordsdailycomealive.wordpress.com

    Three Together As One

    An angel came to my world with a message
    Holding a perfect triangle in His hand
    He asked me if I knew why he carried it
    I laughed at him thinking such a crazy man

    He placed it down on a piece of paper
    Beginning to trace all of its shared lines
    As the image together became complete
    He then asked of me to open up my mind

    He explained how its adjoining three points
    All share equally the same space in between
    He went on to ask me this single question
    If I truly understood what it really means

    He went on to say how it truly displays
    In such a very special and wholesome way
    A wonderful side of pure spiritual wisdom
    Which many alive fail to embrace each day

    The top point of the triangle sit’s our God
    With His glory, grace, forgiveness and love
    But the two lines which went away from Him
    Went to the two creations He was most proud of

    The third line reflects Gods strong foundation
    A shelter when needing guidance the two can be
    But here in the triangle they would be connected
    Reflecting how the relationship will be for three

    If as a man you turn your head away from God
    You cannot hide from him anything you might do
    As you are connected to both God and your wife
    He will see and feel all you might plan to do

    It is the same for the wife as with her husband
    If she ever for some reason chooses to turn away
    God will see the paths which she also might take
    And nothing would be hidden from Him in any way

    The point of the message which he shared with me
    Was to help us understand where our hearts should stay
    He said look at the connecting lines in your life
    Sharing and depending will bless your lives each day

    For God will love and embrace you both all the time
    With His blossoming love in many beautiful ways
    And His blessings will always nourish your lives daily
    When in this threefold embrace of love you both stay.

    Never mistreat each other a single day in your lives
    Treat and love the other as you would love yourself
    And when God looks daily upon your steps each day
    Your hearts will never in his eyes leave any doubt.

    ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
    My wife Deborah and I were married 23 days after
    this poem was written. I share it each June as many
    will make the same decision in their lives this month.
    May God bless their decision also.
    ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~

    Wendell A. Brown
    June 1, 1977,

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  2. What an inspiring story!In this world where divorce and separation seems normal their marriage had stood the test of time and with that, I am so amazed and encouraged. I admire the decision of the family of not putting Mrs. Garro in a Nursing home.Godbless this couple and your family sister

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