When God Seems Silent

Sometimes it seems God is silent. This is frustrating to us. It may seem like God has gone on an extended vacation and we’re not sure when He will be back. But that’s not the case.

 Silence is not absence. Silence is an opportunity for growth. 

My children are eight years apart. That was not the way we planned it. We wanted our children about 3 years apart – you know, we wanted the perfect family. But on April 15, 2000, I suffered the first of several miscarriages. During the years that I prayed and waited for another baby, I learned about God’s so called silence.

Looking back on that period of my life, I don’t really think God was silent. I think it’s our reaction to circumstances that make us think God is silent. We get our hearts set on a certain answer. Any other answer seems like God is not listening to us. Perhaps it’s the other way around. Maybe we are the ones not listening, because we are not hearing what we want to hear.

God’s ways and thoughts are better than ours (Isaiah 55:8). We can’t anticipate His answer. Too often we try do this, so we don’t see the answer He gives us because we are looking for the answer we expect. Instead, keep focused on God. Perhaps He’s leading you in a new direction. 

Psalm 16:11

 You make known to me the path of life; you will fill me with joy in your presence, with eternal pleasures at your right hand. 

Lamentations 3:25

The Lord is good to those whose hope is in him, to the one who seeks him 

James 5:11

As you know, we count as blessed those who have persevered. You have heard of Job’s perseverance and have seen what the Lord finally brought about. The Lord is full of compassion and mercy.

During the years of pregnancy loss, the hands of God touched me through friends, through Pastors, through strangers, and through circumstances. I would not have been a part of those remarkable events if I had my “perfect” family. I grew in my faith during that period of time. When I finally got to the place that I understood the meaning of surrender to God, I got pregnant by accident. That “accident” is now 8 years old.

 Silence is not absence.

 Look for the opportunity for growth and listen with a new ear.

 Ask God for His direction. He will lead you. He will teach you. 

Jeremiah 33:3

 “Call to me and I will answer you and tell you great and unsearchable things you do not know.” 

Isaiah 30:21

Whether you turn to the right or to the left, your ears will hear a voice behind you, saying, “This is the way; walk in it.”


Peace and blessings,


14 thoughts on “When God Seems Silent

  1. I am so sorry you had to go thru that. But as you say, it was a time of growth. And like you say, I tend to listen for the answer “I” want to hear, not what the LORD really wants to say. Thanks for this personal post. Have a great weekend! 🙂

    • Toni,
      Thank you. I’m very blessed. God knew what was right for my family. I have two wonderful children and my family is perfect, because it is a gift from God. I’m learning to listen for His voice, rather than mine, but it isn’t easy.
      You have a wonderful weekend too.

  2. I love the statement “silence is not absence”. It is so true and so powerful. Just because we don’t see God working I our midst doesn’t mean He isn’t. Blessings!

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  4. When I was a child I lived in terrible circumstances. I used to pray with all my might… to a God I didn’t know… for rescue. But no help came… I was never rescued. As a result, I stopped believing that prayers worked. Even to this day, although I am a true-to-the-soul Christian, I have a difficult time believing in prayer. I don’t know when, or even if, I will get to a place of having any trust in it.

    • Everyone walks a different path. I can’t know yours, or what you have been through, but I do believe that God answers prayer, just not always the way we want, or expect. I also believe He uses our trials for good. I will keep you in my prayers for peace and the revelation of answers to your prayers. Blessings.


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